How adults can equip kids with skills to cope with conflict One of the most common reasons parents approach me is to ask for my advice on how to help their child handle a bullying situation at school. Fear for their child’s well-being combined with a sense of powerlessness at changing peer dynamics often leaves moms, dads, and other caregivers feeling helpless. The bad news is that conflict and bullying are pervasive among school-aged kids and most students will be impacted by physical or social aggression either directly or indirectly. The good news is that there are many, many ways
1. Just Listen. This step could be the easy one, if it weren’t for all that pesky emotional baggage we carry around as parents. When you see your child experience social pain, it brings back issues and challenges from your own past. When the emotional area of our brain gets activated we are more apt to engage in any number of unhelpful behaviors, including jumping in prematurely, interrupting, offering unsolicited advice and trying to control/fix the outcome of the situation. 2. Empathize This piece is utterly important. Why? Not only will empathizing with your child strengthen your relationship, feeling heard
The research is clear: gratitude is a superfood for our physical, emotional, and social wellbeing. According to Robert Emmons, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology at UC Davis, gratitude lowers blood pressure, improves immune function, reduces the risk of depression, anxiety, and builds resilience. Share a Gratitude Journal for 30 Days In his research and book, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Emmons suggests even just listing out a few things we are grateful for each day can have a positive impact on our mood, attitude, and relationships. Anytime is a perfect time to start a gratitude journal.
In this 3 part blog we’ll identify What is a procrastination? Why people procrastinate and how to overcome procrastination. Did you miss part 1 or 2? Click here to catch up: Part 1: https://www.internationaltalentacademy.org/2021/01/04/how-to-beat-procrastination_part-1-of-3/ Part2: https://www.internationaltalentacademy.org/?p=13302&preview=true Part 3: How to Overcome Procrastination. YOU NEED TO PROVE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN DO IT You need to show yourself you can do it, not tell yourself. Things will change when you show yourself that they can. A basketball player on a cold streak can tell himself 1000 times, “I’m a great shooter, I’m going to hit this next one,” but it’s not
In this 3 part blog we’ll identify What is a procrastination? Why people procrastinate and how to overcome procrastination. Part 2: Why do People Procrastinate, a Deeper Look (did you miss part 1? Click here to catch up>> https://www.internationaltalentacademy.org/2021/01/04/how-to-beat-procrastination_part-1-of-3/) PROCRASTINATORS LIKE THE CONCEPT OF DOING It’s not that procrastinators don’t like the concept of doing. They look at the bricks on their calendar and they think, “Great, this will be fun.” And that’s because when they picture the moment in the future when they sit down and knock out a work session, they picture things without the presence of the Instant Gratification Monkey. But when
In this 3 part blog we’ll identify What is a procrastination? Why people procrastinate and how to overcome procrastination. Part 1: What is Procrastination and why do People Procrastinate? To understand the procrastinator’s psychology, it’s necessary to understand the two key figures at play in this dynamic: The Instant Gratification Monkey (the part of your brain that makes you procrastinate) and his dominion over the Rational Decision Maker. The procrastinator is in the bad habit, bordering on addiction, of letting the monkey win. He intends to control the monkey, but puts forth a hapless effort, using the same proven-not-to-work methods
1. Just Listen. This step could be the easy one, if it weren’t for all that pesky emotional baggage we carry around as parents. When